Girls rock. Put a bunch together and it can be a great deal of fun, laughs and heart to heart conversations. Except when it isn’t.
Sometimes groups of girls have problems getting along. They fight, gossip and hurt each other’s feelings. At times it feels like a uphill battle while at the same time a downhill freight train with no intention of stopping.
I’ve been working personally with specific staff members and girls this year from a variety of schools and camps. And even though I’ve been doing group coaching for a long time, I always find it an eye-opening study of girls culture, friendship and positive mentorship. Most recently, the leaders of an organization had asked me about one group of girls, in particular, who seemed to be in an endless fight. This daily argument not only was causing internal havoc in the group but was also exhausting the staff and leaving them with questions, concerns and a whole lot of frustration.
After a meeting with the girls personally, I realized that the problem was not, in fact, day to day fighting. Rather, it was a much larger cultural problem that had festered like a toxic wound at the heart of the group.
Does this sound familiar to you? It can be exhausting to deal with the day to day issues that emerge in such a group because there never seems to be an end. That’s because the daily problems are a symptom—not the cause. The question becomes; are you dealing with the root of cultural turmoil or are you trying to band-aid the daily indicators of that turmoil?
Here is a way to determine if you have a deeper problem than the standard daily grind:
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