How to Talk to Kids about Living Boldly and Creating the Life they Want
In this episode, we’ll dive into the pages of Nicole’s book. We’ll uncover the inspiration behind her writing, the personal anecdotes that molded her into becoming the best parent to her 3 daughters, and the powerful messages that she hopes will inspire change and resilience in each one of us.
Guest Expert: Nicole Walters
We live at a time when many parents, out of love, do so much for their kids—so much so that kids are not learning the skills they need in order to thrive. This is one of the reasons why I created one of my free bonuses for the How to Talk to Kids about Anything book launch—118 Skills to Teach Kids by Age 18—a checklist of 118 skills that allows you to ensure your children are ready to thrive on their own by the time they leave your home. You can access that bonus list and several more at DrRobynSilverman.com, under the tab “book.” Now—what about when you are NOT raised in a home where your parents are doing a lot for their kids—maybe because they can’t, maybe because they won’t, maybe their life situation dictates that the children need to be independent to survive. Yes, what is you are raised in a home where you wonder if you’ll have food on the table and anger and shame are the norm? How can we learn to show up for ourselves, strategize ways to succeed, hustle, learn and become? And then, how, as a parent, can we instill these lessons so they can live boldly- no matter where they started in life? I think we can all learn something from my next guest who created the life she wanted by discovering the strength she needed was within her all along.
Bio:
Nicole Walters was raised in poverty in an immigrant family—and became a top-selling corporate executive who quit her six-figure sales job and built a million-dollar-business in one short year. She is the host of a popular podcast, a motivational speaker, a mom of 3 daughters and the author of Nothing is Missing: A Memoir of Living Boldly, out October 10th—just like me! We are book twins!
Important messages:
It’s okay to say, I don’t know. It’s okay to say, let’s look that up together. It’s okay to bridge them to somebody else who may be more knowledgeable in that particular area.
About the book: It is about my family. It is about these girls. I want to be available to them. I want leave a legacy for them. I want them to love themselves and know that their destiny is not going to be dictated by where they started. And this book does that for them and hopefully for everyone else too.
Letting your child know their worth: The way that I’ve been able to show her [24 year old daughter] worth is I always treat her with the respect that she can’t find anywhere else. She knows I am a safe landing spot for her that is stable. Her [21 year old daughter] worth exists beyond how she serves within a home. And then from my little one, my 11 year old, her worth has absolutely come from being very clear and intentional, her worth is something that is intangible, intrinsic and does not go up and down based on what she does during the day.
Allowing your child to make decisions: The hard mom part. I have to honor that she’s going to do what she wants still, but that my voice is in her head and hopefully she’ll see the things as they come up so that she’s able to hopefully see and attack them and she’ll survive. She’ll be fine.
Dealing with difficult conversations: You do need to be transparent and you also need to be age appropriate. And knowing how much is too much to tell your child in that particular moment that there are, it’s never going to be one conversation, but a series of conversations. We don’t have to get it all in on one.
Parenting Advice: Grant yourself some grace and know that if you are interested in doing your best– that is enough.
Notable quotable:
“Adults don’t always have the answer.”
“[Your] destiny is not going to be dictated by where you started.”
“Worth exists beyond how she [you] serves within a home.”
“Worth is something that is intangible, intrinsic, and does not go up and down based on what she [you] does during the day.”
“Grant yourself some grace and know that if you are interested in doing your best– that is enough.”
