How to Be a Happier Parent When Happier Moms and Dads Mean Happier Kids

HAPPIER PARENTS= HAPPIER KIDS!

Do you want to be a happier parent? Most might say yes. Would it surprise you to know that for many years, research has shown that non-parents are happier than parents on an everyday basis? It’s true.

In today’s world where many parents are often shuttling kids from one destination to another, coping with high anxiety around school, sports, college, their children’s friends, their children’s interests, screen time, keeping their children safe and perhaps also trying to keep up with the Jones too- there seems to be a “happiness gap” between childless adults and those who have children. This is NOT what we had imagined when we pictured family life, is it?

So the question is- is it possible to change our families and our family lives so that they are full of the joy that we always hoped for?

Turns out- yes we can be happier parents! We need to turn our attention to the habits and concessions we’ve made and make some important changes. And don’t worry about feeling guilty. Parents who are happier have kids who are happier!

What makes you happy?

  • Laughing with a friend over coffee?
  • Performing on stage?
  • Dancing?
  • Biking?
  • Exercising?
  • Yoga?
  • Playing an instrument?
  • Reading a good book?
  • Going out to dinner with your main squeeze?

NOW– Want to know exactly what to do? I interviewed New York Times contributing editor and columnist (remember Motherlode?), KJ Dell’Antonia about her forthcoming book, How to Be a Happier Parent, and we discussed some things we have to stop doing and some things we need to start doing to ensure our happiness. She says some controversial things like “don’t put your children first unless they are bleeding” which may make you dig your heals in and question how what she is saying applies to you- but it’s kind of like the whole airplane directive (put your own mask on first before assisting others).

Take a listen. It’s right on my #talktokids podcast over here.

Here’s to you and wishing you a lifetime of happiness (starting…now!)

Xoxo,

How to Be a Happier Parent with KJ Dell’Antonia

Special Guest: KJ Dell’Antonia Five years of editing the Motherlode column for the New York Times taught KJ Dell’Antonia this: family can be a source of joy, not stress. Her reporting and research on parental happiness led to her new forthcoming book, “How to Be a Happier Parent,” available in August, 2018. She writes regularly on the personal and policy aspects of parenthood for the New York Times and other publications, and sends out a weekly tiny letter on being a happier parent (even when she’s not)— http://tinyurl.com/followkj which is in the shownotes of this podcast. She lives in New Hampshire with her husband, four children and assorted horses, chickens, dogs and cats.

Every Child Has SuperPowers: What are YOUR Child’s Strengths?

EVERY CHILD HAS SUPERPOWERS: ? I keep this photo on my desk while I work. It’s of my son from when he was 4 years old (he’s now 7). To me, it reminds me that every child has strengths- gifts that can bless this world and make it s better place to be.

Of course, sometimes those strengths are hidden by old wounds, scars, or sticky labels or covered-over by frustrating behaviors or diagnoses that seem to pop to the forefront like ADHD, ASD, OCD or other neurodiverse brain differences.

It’s not always easy to remember this as a #parent, #coach or #teacher when #kids can push just the right buttons to make us feel a little ?????. I totally get that and I’m right their with you. That Sweet-faced guy in the ?Superman suit ?can drive me bonkers. ? He’s the new Dennis the Menace- if anyone remembers that comic!

But he’s also really bright and clever. Kind-hearted and funny. ❤️And can find anything that you thought you lost do good. We call him “the finder of all lost things.” He can spell words that I have trouble spelling- how does he do that? ❓❓❓He builds amazing things out of blocks and can play #chess like he’s been playing his whole life (he only just started). And when he says “I love you” and gives you an honest to goodness hug, well, he might just melt your heart.

?So- superpowers. What are your #children ‘s superpowers? I’d love to hear about them below!? Or go to my instagram or facebook page to discuss!

How to Talk to Kids about Meaning & Purpose in a Secular Age with Katherine Ozment

Special Guest: Katherine Ozment Katherine Ozment is the author of Grace Without God: The Search for Meaning, Purpose, and Belonging in a Secular Age. She is an award-winning journalist who has worked in publishing for more than twenty-five years, including as a senior editor at National Geographic, for which she once rode a donkey through the desert of Israel and Jordan for several weeks. Her essays and articles have been widely published in such venues as National Geographic, The New York Times, and Salon. Grace Without God was named a best book of the year by Publishers Weekly and Spirituality & Health. I’m not surprised because it is beautifully written and thought provoking. You can learn more about Katherine and her book in the show notes of this podcast as well as on her website  www.katherineozment.com

How to Deal with the Inner Critic & To Stop Feeling Like Sh*t with Andrea Owen

Special Guest: Andrea Owen Life coach. Author and Self described Hellraiser. Andrea Owen is passionate about empowering women to value themselves and fiercely love who they are. She helps high-achieving women let go of perfectionism, control, and isolation—urging them to choose courage and confidence instead. Her new book is called How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: 14 Habits that Are Holding You Back from Happiness. You can learn more about Andrea and her new book in the show notes to this podcast or on www.yourkickasslife.com.

How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting with Your Kids with Dr. Laura Markham

Special Guest: Dr. Laura Markham Dr. Laura Markham trained as a Clinical Psychologist, earning her PhD from Columbia University. She is the mother of two, now ages 21 and 25. Dr. Laura is the author of the book Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting and Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How To Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life. And she has a new workbook out called the Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids Workbook that you are sure to love. You can find her online at http://www.ahaparenting.com