Bullying. There is no magic bullet to deal with it or prevent it.
As you may recall, NJ has implemented more stringent laws to deal with those who bully and to rally those in the schools to be more vigilant and proactive (I spoke about this on Fox news here). As you can imagine, that doesn’t mean that when I speak about bullying to the parents of Morris County, NJ in November, I will say that dealing with bullying is in the hands of the educators. It can’t be. When our children are part of the bullying triangle (bully, victim, bystanders), we need a home-school-community partnership just as we need a parent-educator-student partnership. In other words, it’s everyone’s issue. It has to be.
There are some things we can do. Today let’s discuss one. Social goals. Social goals are what we hope to achieve when we are among others, in this case, peers. In a recent study, researchers found that of the 370+ children they surveyed, social goals fell into three categories; (1) Acquiring social skills to nurture high quality friendships; (2) Acquiring a positive reputation to achieve prestige and “cool” friends; and (3) Avoiding negative reputation and negative judgments to circumvent being named a “loser.”
Now here’s the significant part:
- Those in the first category (positive friendships), were more likely to more successfully manage their emotions, provide thoughtful and constructive Read more