We all get that feeling that we are messing up our children sometimes. I do too. Often…if I’m being honest.
I look back to when we first took our daughter home from the hospital and remember my husband and I looking at each other and wondering how in the world they let us take her. We had no idea what we were doing!
And there are days, with both our children, that we still feel the same way. Do you feel that way too sometimes?
But as much as we think we are messing up at times, it’s also very likely, we are doing something VERY right. Never forget how powerful you are. Our children are taking in our words. They are watching our actions. They are adopting our values. And it does make a difference.
Everyday, there are opportunities to shape our children. Of course, it’s what we do overtime that makes a lasting impact. And sometimes, we DO get it right. And sometimes, we even get a chance to realize it.
Last night– I had THAT MOMENT in the bathroom while brushing teeth with my daughter:
T, age 6: “Mommy; am I beautiful?”
Me: “Yes. When people are kind and full of character, it comes out their eyes and in what they do and it makes them beautiful. And people who are nasty all the time, even if they are pretty on the outside, are not beautiful.”
T: It doesn’t matter what you look like on the outside. It’s the inside that counts.”
Me: “That’s right, Baby. People focus too much on what they look like on the outside and not enough on who they are on the inside.”
T: “Yeah. Because it’s what’s in your heart that makes you beautiful.”
Me: “Yes, my Sweet. That’s exactly right. Are you learning about being beautiful on the inside at school?”
T: “No, Mommy. I learned it from you.”
They are listening. You are enough. And maybe, just maybe, we’re not messing up this parenting thing as much as we thought.