My daughter loves to twirl around in a tutu. She loves to play “trucks” and “doctor.” She pretends to be a fairy princess and a dinosaur. She climbs. She runs. She kicks. She investigates bugs and touches worms. She plays with dolls, gets elbow deep in water play at the sink and digs in the sand at the playground. Oh, and she gets dirty. Boy, can she do that well. She loves it all.
My husband and I have chosen to let her find her own way when it comes to her passions and her preferences. We expose her to all different kinds of experiences and watch what she enjoys. We don’t pigeon hole or steer clear of anything because it’s too “girly” or too “boyish.” I don’t really care what the labels are. She is who she is and I love it.
Last Saturday she dressed up as a princess for her good friend’s “royal” dance party. Pearls, a tiara, a fancy pink dress with a tutu attached. She was in her glory.
On Sunday we took her to “Touch-A-Truck” where she could get in real tractors, cranes, buses, ambulances and back hoes and work the levers, pull the horn, push the buttons, and open and close the doors. Again, she was in her glory. She is free to float up and down the preset gender continuum and it’s a beautiful thing.
If we are to help our daughters and our sons truly become all that they can be, they can’t be boxed in, pushed down and told to remain strong-footed on one side or the other of some prefabricated line. As parents and teachers, it is up to us to open our children up to the whole world rather than closing them off to a part that might make them truly feel at home.
For us, we feel that if our daughter is to become the person she was meant to be on this planet, we can’t limit her. Keeping safety and character in tact, we simply don’t keep her from experiencing, exploring and experimenting. I want her to keep all 5 senses open and sharp so she can discover…herself.
No boxes, no ceilings, no lines. Just her. In her glory.
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From Princess to Trucker: How Our Children Can Color Inside & Outside the Gender Lines is a post from: Dr. Robyn Silverman – Child Development Specialist, Body Image Expert, Success Coach & the Creator of the Powerful Words Character Development System